Question 1

What are your fees? Do you take insurance?

Accepted Answer

My fees are $145 for a 55-minute session for individuals and $170 for a 55-minute session for couples or groups.  I'm private-pay only because insurance companies are...not great. In a nutshell, they don't pay me enough to actually cover my costs and stay in business. I know, sorry. I can provide a superbill to help with reimbursement from your insurance provider.

Question 2

Will therapy help?

Accepted Answer

Of course I can't say "yes" without knowing you or your life's challenges. But I can say that simply being able to talk to someone who listens to what you say (and don't say) is a great first step to finding your way forward. If you're here reading this page, it's probably time to try something new.

Question 3

How long will it take?

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My goal is to hear you say "Thanks, I/we've got it from here Lindsay." With just a few sessions, my clients often feel some relief knowing they've taken the first step to changing what's bothering them. As our work continues and we build trust, we might get into deeper issues. That's up to you. Many clients find that 12-20 sessions is enough for them to feel confident that with the new tools, increased self-understanding and insight gained in therapy, they can solve life's challenges on their own. That's my goal for you.

Question 4

I've never been to therapy before. What's it like?

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We'll start by getting to know each other.  In your first therapy session, we will discuss your reasons for seeking therapy and your goals for treatment.  If you don't know what your goal is, that's Ok. We'll figure it out together. As we progress, I'll continue to get to know you, your life, and what challenges you're facing. I don't give a lot of advice. My guess is that you have people in your life who give advice and it's not helpful because they aren't experts in your life. I'm not either. You are the expert in your life. What I will do is ask you questions and challenge you. Sometimes that means helping you see things differently, making a decision, or trying something new.

Question 5

How often should I go to therapy?

Accepted Answer

The frequency of therapy sessions will depend on your individual needs and goals. Many clients attend therapy once a week, while others may attend less frequently. I will work with you to develop a personalized treatment plan.

Question 6

You say your focus is nonmonogamy. What does that mean?

Accepted Answer

Monogamy can be great. Nonmonogamy can be great. Polyamory (a type of nonmonogamy) can be great. The important part is that YOU get to choose what's right for you. My expertise in nonmonogamy comes from over 10 years of living nonmonogamously, facilitating local polyamory discussion groups, and a ridiculous amount of reading research articles on the scientific study of polyamory and nonmonogamy.

Question 7

Do you see triads, quads, etc?

Accepted Answer

Yep. Bring the whole crew and let's get to work. I can help your group improve communication, identify needs and wants, and have relationships with less conflict (or at least better-managed conflict. Therapy isn't magic.).

Question 8

We just keep having the same disagreements over and over. How will therapy help?

Accepted Answer

If the same issues keep coming up, it's time to try something new.  In my work with couples, I find that it's not really about who does the dishes. We'll work together to identify the deeper issues so we can expose them to the light of day and decide how to go about solving those issues.

Question 9

We're monogamous and we like it that way. Will you push nonmonogamy?

Accepted Answer

Hell no! Your relationship style is your choice. I'm here to help you reach your relationship goals. Not anyone else's.

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